Integral Coaching vs. Business Coaching: What is the difference?

A bit more about what I am doing now...

I have noticed that when talking about coaching, many people imagine either "Instagram experts" or business coaching which they see in the workplace.

I will not spend time on the former category🤣. Let's talk in more details about the latter.

Now the image of the coaching as a development technique is mainly assuming improving your performance in the office. You know the drill - management thinks that your work is not sufficient or your relations with peers and subordinates in the office are not going well, so they give you a chance to improve. Thus you get assigned to the coach, who will work with you to discuss what you are doing wrong and how you can "improve". And very often in those discussions, the only subject is what you can do to be a better corporate employee. Sounds familiar?

There is even corporate jargon - "he is being coached" - meaning that the career of the employee is at risk and management decided to try the last resort...

However, the integral coaching, which I practice, is not talking only about your work habits and technics. Humans are too complex creatures to be looked at from one angle only.

Usually, if there are some issues at work, those are signs of more complicated relations between your personality and environment, or within your family. Those are signs that you are not at peace with yourself.

You can not be "assigned to a coach". To start the coaching is the decision you consciously make and when you feel that you need it. While working with a professional coach, you establish trustful and intimate relationships. During the sessions, you can and should touch all aspects of your life - and transform them. Integral Coaching is about your whole life, about love to yourself, understanding your own needs, forming new shapes of your mind, body and heart. All answers you have inside you already. A good coach helps you to find them.

There is a vision, that in the future well-developed society everyone will have a coach to facilitate the growth and development.

Live here and now

December is the month to sum up the year, isn't it😉?

One of the major conclusions I made for year 2020 - you have to live now, without waiting for later. Cause "later" may never come...

This year I often heard from my acquaintances the statement: "The pandemic will be over and then I will meet friends / go for vacation / dine in restaurant / do sport". The list of activities, which are waiting and postponed, goes on forever and unique for everyone.

Thought the pandemic we live in now is just one of many crises each of us experiences during our life time. And we use those periods of uncertainty to delay "for later" some important activities, positive emotions and impressions. We wait for calmer and easier relationship, understanding colleagues, higher salary and job, smarter boss.

However life does not wait until we sort out our expectations and crises. We grow up and getting older waiting for the changes, which "allow" us to start living the life we want. But those changes may never come...

I have decided one important thing.

If you can and want change something in your life - do it now. Change job, partner, city or country, interests. If you can not or do not want to change - just accept and face it.

But continue living and do not postpone some important and interesting things. Enjoy every minute of the day. Do not pay attention to your doubts. Accept the invite to the gathering you have always ignored before. Say "no" to what you do not like. Separate with that friend or partner, who drags you back.

Life is full of opportunities - and each of them can change you. Let them in - do not postpone your life.

Жить здесь и сейчас

Декабрь - месяц подведения итогов 😉

Один из моих основных выводов по 2020 году - жить нужно прямо сейчас, не откладывая ничего на потом. "Потом" может и не наступить...

Я часто слышал в течение этого года фразу: "Вот эпидемия закончится и уж тогда я сразу поеду в нормальный отпуск / увижу друзей / схожу в ресторан / займусь спортом". Список того, что можно будет потом сделать, бесконечен.

А ведь нынешняя эпидемия - это всего лишь один из кризисов, которые мы переживаем десятками в течение нашей жизни. И мы используем эти периоды нестабильности, чтобы отложить на попозже, "на после", какие-то важные для нас занятия, впечатления, эмоции. Мы ждём более здоровых отношений, приятных коллег и понимающих друзей, умного руководителя, высокой зарплаты и должности.

Жизнь не ждёт, пока мы разберёмся с нашими проблемами или кризисами. Мы взрослеем и стареем, ожидая тех самых изменений, которые "позволят" нам жить и заниматься любимыми вещами. А они, изменения, могут и не наступить - пока мы сидим в ожидании.

Важно решить для себя главное, на мой взгляд. Можете и хотите что-то поменять в своём нынешнем состоянии - меняйте сразу же. Работу, город, партнёра, круг общения. Не можете или не хотите менять - просто примите как данность и смиритесь с тем, что есть.

Но в любом случае продолжайте жить дальше, сейчас, не откладывая интересные и важные вещи на потом. Наслаждайтесь каждой минутой, которая вам дана. Не обращайте внимания на сомнения. Скажите "нет" тому, что вам не нравится. Расстаньтесь с другом или партнёром, которые тянет назад. Ответьте на приглашение посетить встречу, которую вы всегда до этого игнорировали.

Ведь жизнь и состоит из всех этих возможностей, и каждая может изменить нас. Разрешите себе их использовать и не откладывайте жизнь на потом.