Success vs reality

Sometimes the bravest thing you can do is stop pretending you’re winning.

A friend recently asked me: “You’re a coach — why don’t you always write about success, achievements, big goals, and motivation?”

I paused, because the question caught me off guard. Life isn’t only about victories or showing how well you’re doing. More often, it’s about pauses, doubts, fear, exhaustion, searching. And it’s exactly in those moments that we discover who we really are.

I rarely write about “success stories” because what interests me more is real life, the kind where people get tired, lost, fall down, but still stand up and try again. Where success isn’t a new title or diploma, but an honest conversation with yourself.

To me, that’s what coaching and mentoring are truly about: not pushing people toward artificial “achievements” born out of social pressure, but helping them find their own rhythm, their own truth, their own way. Sometimes quiet. Sometimes imperfect. But theirs.

And what do you think — should a coach or mentor talk only about success?