Expectations

Do you wait for a prince on a white horse? Or an enchanted beauty in a tall tower?

Each of us has our own ideas about what a relationship should look like: what we want from a partner, from life together, from the “ideal” scenario. These expectations come from childhood — from what we saw at home, or from people who once served as role models for us.

And having this personal wish list is absolutely normal. Also it’s normal to want a close person to support or fulfill these desires in a certain way.

But there is one thing we often forget: to say it out loud. Not through hints, not with “well, it’s obvious,” but directly. Because otherwise the classic guessing game begins — someone gets hurt or hurts the other, someone does the wrong thing, someone fails to meet expectations they didn’t even know existed.

One of my key observations from years of working with people is this: voicing your expectations, desires, and needs is critically important. No one will guess what you need for you. And nothing will be done if you don’t say it — clearly, “out loud, with actual words,” and as early as possible.

By the way, this also helps us better understand our own desires and expectations.