Toxic people

It’s hard to scroll through social media these days without seeing advice like “cut toxic people out of your life.” Every second coach or psychologist seems to say it. Those who drain your energy, disturb your peace, or “don’t match your vibration” - goodbye!

Sounds logical, right? But I’ve started to wonder: is it really about them, or about our expectations of them?

Each of us lives inside our own System of Interpretation, our private lens through which we see and make sense of the world. What feels “toxic” to us might simply be someone else’s normal. They’re not necessarily wrong or harmful. Maybe their SoI is just built differently from ours.

When I stopped demanding that people think, feel, or react like me, something changed. I noticed that the so-called “toxic energy” started disappearing. Not because people changed, but because I did.

Maybe the real growth isn’t in cutting people off, but in learning to hold space for differences without losing yourself in them.

What do you think — are we really surrounded by toxic people, or just by people we haven’t yet learned to understand? Or there is some absolute toxicity, whatever our zen is?