It is a very popular trend now in the area of wellbeing and emotional health. Every second coach or psychologist tells you to get rid of "toxic" people around you. Those, whose beliefs annoy us, actions - disturb, who drain our energy, etc. That makes sense, but I believe, the toxicity of the people for you very much depends on your expectations from them.
I think, every person has their System of Interpretation SoI, which helps them to navigate in the world. If their actions and attitude disrupt us - it does not necessarily mean that they are wrong and toxic. Just their SoI is so far away from ours. We can't expect everyone to be the same.
For me, it's easier just to change expectations from people around to see with immediate effect how less "toxicity" I feel.
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